PROPER 19, YEAR A
September 13, 2026
Sts. Matthew & Mark, Barrington, R.I.
Genesis 50:15-21
Psalm 103:1-13
Romans 14:1-12
Matthew 18:21-35
“Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.” So our Lord teaches us to pray. God’s forgiveness of our sins through the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ is at the heart of the Christian Gospel.
But forgiving those who’ve hurt, wronged, injured, or offended us is one of the most challenging demands of our faith – and one of the most controversial. Do we really expect victims of child abuse, rape, or violent crime to forgive their tormentors? Do we really expect survivors of the concentration camps to forgive their captors?
Those are enormously difficult questions to which I don’t pretend to have easy answers. But two points:
First, we can answer the question of forgiveness only for ourselves, not for others.
Second, such questions typically arise only in a Christian context. Only after we’ve heard the Christian Gospel do we begin to feel the tension between its message of forgiveness and our human instinct for retribution.
Typically, Scripture offers answers to such questions not through detailed, step-by-step instructions for achieving forgiveness, but through stories. As we hear, read, mark, learn, and inwardly digest the biblical stories, they gradually shape our minds, imaginations, and wills. They don’t offer easy answers to hard questions so much as help us see the questions themselves in new ways.
The story of Joseph in today’s reading from Genesis is a case in point. Joseph and his eleven brothers are Jacob's sons and ancestors of the twelve tribes of Israel. Many years earlier, Joseph’s brothers attacked him in a fit of jealous rage, stripped him of his beautiful robe, and sold him to a caravan of traders who took him to Egypt to sell him as a slave.
But instead of remaining a slave, through a series of adventures featuring his unique ability to interpret dreams, Joseph has risen to become the chief minister of Pharaoh’s household: the most powerful official in the land. In this capacity, he’s stockpiled grain reserves in preparation for the famine he knows is coming, again thanks to his ability to interpret dreams. When the famine does strike, his brothers come down to Egypt to buy grain. After a series of encounters in which he recognizes them but they don’t recognize him, he finally reveals himself, telling them that God sent him ahead of them into Egypt to preserve all their lives.
As today’s reading from Genesis begins, Joseph’s brothers are terrified that, now that their father Jacob has died, Joseph will finally take his revenge on them. So they offer to be his slaves if only he’ll spare their lives. But instead, he reassures them: “Fear not, for am I in the place of God? As for you, you intended evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive …”
Notice that Joseph doesn’t try to exonerate his brothers or excuse their crime. He tells it like it is: “you intended evil against me.” His brothers stand condemned. But Joseph discerns a deeper wisdom at work. If he were to exact retribution by killing or enslaving his brothers, he’d be putting himself in the place of God, to whom alone vengeance belongs. He’d also be contradicting the will of God, who allowed him to be sold into slavery in the first place to save all their lives. So, just as God has been merciful to Joseph, so now Joseph is merciful to his brothers.
The story Jesus tells in today’s Gospel, the parable of the unforgiving servant, stands in a kind of inverse parallel to the story of Joseph and his brothers. A king releases a servant from a huge debt the servant could never pay by himself. But the same servant then refuses to forgive an infinitesimally smaller debt owed to him by another servant. When the king hears of it, he’s outraged: “You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you besought me. Should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant as I had mercy on you?”
The analogy is that God has forgiven us at the infinite cost of his Son’s suffering and death on the cross for our sins, so he expects us to forgive one another, even though it costs us far less. To become forgiving people, we begin by acknowledging how much God has forgiven us.
As today’s Psalm puts it: “[The Lord] has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor rewarded us according to our wickedness.” And again, Saint Paul, in today’s reading from his Letter to the Romans, says: “Why do you pass judgment on your brother or sister? … For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God.”
However, it's crucial to understand what forgiveness is and what it isn’t. When someone has hurt us, forgiveness doesn’t mean saying, “Oh, that’s all right, it doesn’t matter.” It’s not all right, and it does matter. If it were truly all right, there’d be nothing to forgive.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing the wrong or pretending it didn’t happen. Instead, it means overcoming our instinct to strike back and letting go of our desire for vengeance and retribution.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean a violent criminal should escape serious prison time. It doesn’t mean a chief financial officer who’s embezzled company funds should keep either his job or the money. It doesn’t mean a battered wife should continue living with an abusive husband. It doesn’t mean the Church should move priests who’ve molested children from parish to parish and cover up their crimes. In each of these situations, decisive steps are necessary to protect the innocent and safeguard the community.
In tough situations like these, forgiveness means something much harder: refusing to be ruled by hatred, malice, vindictiveness, and the desire for revenge, which can all too easily consume us and poison our attitudes and behavior. It also means refusing to let our identities be defined by our suffering and victimization.
When others hurt, injure, or offend us—which in this life they inevitably will—our choice is where to take our cues in responding. In the Genesis reading, Joseph would be perfectly justified in responding in kind to his brothers’ crime. But instead of taking his cue from his brothers, he takes his cue from God and shows mercy. In the Gospel parable, however, the servant fails to take his cue from the king who’s just forgiven him, and so fails to forgive his fellow servant.
To become a forgiving people, we need to learn to see the other person from God’s point of view. Easier said than done! It requires enormous perseverance, patience, and prayer. But most of all, it requires telling, retelling, and immersing ourselves in the biblical stories of forgiveness and reconciliation. Then, by God’s grace, we can begin to know the wonderful freedom and joy found in forgiving others as God has forgiven us.