PROPER 17, YEAR C
August 31, 2025
Saints Matthew and Mark, Barrington, R. I.
Sirach 10:12-18
Luke 14:1, 7-14
Since the earliest centuries, the Church has traditionally viewed today’s Gospel as a lesson in one of the core Christian virtues: humility.
At dinner in the house of a prominent Pharisee, Jesus observes the guests jostling for position, trying to claim the best seats as they arrive. He recognizes in this behavior the signs of a deeper spiritual illness: namely, pride, ambition, and the striving for honor and recognition. As today’s reading from Sirach warns us: “The beginning of human pride is to forsake the Lord, the heart has withdrawn from its Maker. For the beginning of human pride is sin, and the one who clings to it pours out abominations.”
Jesus offers the guests some wise advice. When you arrive at a wedding feast, don’t presume to take one of the best seats—because if someone more important arrives, the host might ask you to move, and you’ll be publicly embarrassed by having to go down to one of the last remaining seats in the least desirable part of the room. Instead, start by choosing the lowest seat so the host can honor you by inviting you to move up.
This advice is not merely a tip on successful social climbing, but rather an illustration of a broader principle. Those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.
To expand on this point: those who attempt to secure the best seats first are assuming a posture of entitlement. They believe they are justified in taking what they see as their rightful due. In contrast, the person who occupies the lowest seat adopts a stance of humility, so that the invitation to “come up higher” comes not as a right but as a gracious gift freely given.
Over the years, my observation has been that people who adopt this posture of humility and receptivity tend to be happier and more content than those who assume the posture of entitlement. They have nothing to prove, so they accept life as it comes, with gratitude for whatever blessings they receive along the way.
One of my priestly mentors, the Rev. Dr. Richard Cornish Martin of Washington, D.C., wrote and published a short memoir titled Called before he died about ten years ago. He observed that throughout his years of priestly ministry, he never actively sought any of the church assignments to which he eventually was called. Instead, it all seemed to be a series of coincidences—being in the right place at the right time and receiving invitations from a vestry or bishop to take this or that position. Very little was planned; it all simply unfolded according to its own mysterious logic. So, he accepted the opportunities and challenges that came his way with deep gratitude and a sense of profound unworthiness.
Not all of us can live that way all the time, and honestly, I can’t say I’ve always approached my priestly vocation exactly like that either. But one thing I've noticed from my own experience is that my most fulfilling tasks, assignments, and responsibilities usually weren’t the ones I actively sought out, but rather those that seemed to come looking for me instead.
For example, I never imagined I would serve on a diocesan Search and Nominations committee for selecting a bishop. That was never an assignment I desired or sought. Then, about fourteen years ago, the head of the diocesan standing committee visited me at my office, told me they needed me, and asked if I would accept the appointment. With some hesitation and trepidation, I said yes. I wasn’t quite sure what to expect, but it turned out to be one of my most interesting, challenging, and rewarding assignments ever.
Conversely, I’ve noticed over the years that a common denominator among people who are angry or bitter about their life in the Church is often resentment born of the feeling that, somehow, they’ve been cheated of their rightful due.
For example: a vestry member who resigns in frustration and stops attending church because he believes his ideas and proposals for parish growth have been ignored and not taken seriously. Or: a volunteer in parish organizations who feels bitter because she thinks all her years of hard work for the church have never received proper acknowledgment and thanks. (By the way, I’m not talking about anyone specific here! Throughout my years in ordained ministry, I’ve encountered many examples of both types, as I’m sure we all have. Every parish has them.)
In situations like these, the people involved only make themselves miserable—similar to guests who arrive at a wedding feast and choose the best seats, only to be sent down to the lowest place. Once again, our Lord’s point is that those who gratefully accept whatever blessings come their way tend to be much happier and more content with their lot in life than those who adopt the posture of entitlement and grasping.
And what’s at stake isn’t just this life but the next one as well. When you host a dinner or a banquet, our Lord goes on to say, don’t invite your friends, relatives, colleagues, and business associates who can return the favor and pay you back in this life. Instead, invite the poor, the maimed, the blind, and the lame—and you’ll be blessed, precisely because they cannot repay you. You will be rewarded at the Resurrection on the last day.
So, again, our Lord isn’t just giving advice on how to host good dinner parties. He’s emphasizing a broader and more vital principle. Sometimes, we must do what we believe is right, even if we’re not rewarded or recognized for it in this life. Doing the right thing might even invite criticism and make us unpopular. But God sees our motives and intentions. And our ultimate reward, the one that truly matters, doesn’t come in the life of this world. With that understanding, then, we move forward, doing what we believe to be our duty in each situation that arises, and—most importantly—doing so with that unwavering good cheer that shows the strength and vibrancy of our faith.